Selena Gomez got candid about some painful feelings involving her relationship with Justin Bieber.
In a new interview with NPR, the singer opened up about the hardest moments of her life, including the pain she felt for not receiving “respectful closure” following her breakup with the “Cold Water” musician in March 2018. Despite the hardships of that situation, Gomez expressed that her new album, Rare, helped her “find a way to claim my story.”
One way of taking back her narrative was with her number-one song “Lose You to Love Me,” an honest, open-hearted track that touches on her romance with Bieber. “I’m very proud of it. It has a different meaning to me now from when I wrote it. I felt I didn’t get a respectful closure, and I had accepted that, but I know I needed some way to just say a few things that I wish I had said,” she told NPR. “It’s not a hateful song; it’s a song that is saying — I had something beautiful and I would never deny that it wasn’t that. It was very difficult and I’m happy it’s over.”
When asked if she still looks back on that chapter of her life, Gomez responded with a heartbreaking revelation. “No, because I’ve found the strength in it. It’s dangerous to say in a victim mentality,” she answered, before trailing off: “And I’m not being disrespectful, I do feel I was a victim to certain [emotional] abuse…”
“I had to find a way to understand it as an adult. And I had to understand the choices I was making,” the pop star continued. “As much as I definitely don’t want to spend the rest of my life talking about this, I am really proud that I can say I feel the strongest I’ve ever felt and I’ve found a way to just walk through it with as much grace as possible.”
As yet, Bieber has not responded to Gomez’s comments.